Day 151- People
May. 31st, 2009 11:28 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wolfsbrideThis post is related to and is a continuation of Day 146 and Day 149. I'm too... mentally unable to deal with actually linking the posts.
Anyway, when we left those posts, the interview had been completed and I was pretty up beat because the couple I interviewed were really nice and I was all excited to move forward with whole process of getting their application approved so they could move in. So, Friday evening I came home, kind of elated that all went well, and I emailed the committee chair to let her know the interview was done and to ask what would happen next.
Being as I had plans for Saturday from 10am - 2pm and then again from 3pm to I had no idea when, I didn't check my email before I left for my first thing. When I got home at 2:30pm and checked my mail, I had an email from the chairperson asking me if I'd checked their references and did I do this that and the other thing and I just kinda went uh what? I didn't know it was my job to do all that. If anyone had bothered to explain the process to me, I would have delegated the checking of references over to someone else who actually had some sort of experience with that stuff. Being as I had to leave to go to my other thing I didn't even attempt to reply.
When I finally got home Saturday evening, I responded back answering the questions the chairperson had in their email and then I sent a separate one outlining my concerns that I was suddenly being made responsible for way more than I should be considering I had no idea of policies or guidelines or anything. By this time I was so stressed out that I was having chest pains, information I put in my email. I ended my email reminding the chairperson that our committee has fourteen other people on it and it wasn't right that she and I were the ones ending up with all the work. Then I went to bed.
I didn't actually get any sleep Saturday night. I had chest pains off and on all night. I actually called and cancelled my morning ride and just lay in bed trying to calm down. After a long rest and a longer babble about Star Trek with several friends, I felt a bit better, then the chairperson called me and I went over to her place to discuss the matter. She was very understanding and supportive because she's basically going through same problems as I am with regards to having everything dumped in her lap. She gave me a list of people I could delegate my task to, which was great.
I went away and managed to contact two people on the list that after much coaxing agreed to taking over phoning and setting up the next round of interviews. So there I was relieved that we were going to be able to move forward with the nice couple's application and maybe get another lined up for if we got another vacancy. Three hours later, the two people showed up on my door mat, to say the reference information was not filled out completely and this and that should have been done and by the way we shouldn't be interviewing this person because they're not in the right order of the list and I just kept nodding until they went away.
So naturally my chest pains came back. I emailed the the chairperson and explained to her what happened and she sent me back a very nice email that actually made me burst into tears because at that point I was so strung out that even kindness was a torment. Anyway, I'm going to copy paste a bit of it here since her words are hers and I don't want to paraphrase.
Oh dear. That’s not a very good way to end your day. I’m so sorry. Try, if you can, not to worry about this tonight. Your health and well-being are so much more important that filling that damn unit and people who have to be begged to contribute have no business offering any kind of comments about the way things are being done. I'm going to raise the issue of your treatment at our Tuesday meeting and let people know that if they are not prepared be supportive then we are not prepared to devote our time and energy to the committee. The purpose of a co-op is to be united not to tear each other down.
So. That's where it's at right now. I still have the two applications. I'm not going to do anything with them though. I'm just going to hold them until Tuesday and put them down at the meeting with a request that someone else step up and take over the final steps. It's something the chairperson and I decided in our conference earlier today.
Anyway, when we left those posts, the interview had been completed and I was pretty up beat because the couple I interviewed were really nice and I was all excited to move forward with whole process of getting their application approved so they could move in. So, Friday evening I came home, kind of elated that all went well, and I emailed the committee chair to let her know the interview was done and to ask what would happen next.
Being as I had plans for Saturday from 10am - 2pm and then again from 3pm to I had no idea when, I didn't check my email before I left for my first thing. When I got home at 2:30pm and checked my mail, I had an email from the chairperson asking me if I'd checked their references and did I do this that and the other thing and I just kinda went uh what? I didn't know it was my job to do all that. If anyone had bothered to explain the process to me, I would have delegated the checking of references over to someone else who actually had some sort of experience with that stuff. Being as I had to leave to go to my other thing I didn't even attempt to reply.
When I finally got home Saturday evening, I responded back answering the questions the chairperson had in their email and then I sent a separate one outlining my concerns that I was suddenly being made responsible for way more than I should be considering I had no idea of policies or guidelines or anything. By this time I was so stressed out that I was having chest pains, information I put in my email. I ended my email reminding the chairperson that our committee has fourteen other people on it and it wasn't right that she and I were the ones ending up with all the work. Then I went to bed.
I didn't actually get any sleep Saturday night. I had chest pains off and on all night. I actually called and cancelled my morning ride and just lay in bed trying to calm down. After a long rest and a longer babble about Star Trek with several friends, I felt a bit better, then the chairperson called me and I went over to her place to discuss the matter. She was very understanding and supportive because she's basically going through same problems as I am with regards to having everything dumped in her lap. She gave me a list of people I could delegate my task to, which was great.
I went away and managed to contact two people on the list that after much coaxing agreed to taking over phoning and setting up the next round of interviews. So there I was relieved that we were going to be able to move forward with the nice couple's application and maybe get another lined up for if we got another vacancy. Three hours later, the two people showed up on my door mat, to say the reference information was not filled out completely and this and that should have been done and by the way we shouldn't be interviewing this person because they're not in the right order of the list and I just kept nodding until they went away.
So naturally my chest pains came back. I emailed the the chairperson and explained to her what happened and she sent me back a very nice email that actually made me burst into tears because at that point I was so strung out that even kindness was a torment. Anyway, I'm going to copy paste a bit of it here since her words are hers and I don't want to paraphrase.
Oh dear. That’s not a very good way to end your day. I’m so sorry. Try, if you can, not to worry about this tonight. Your health and well-being are so much more important that filling that damn unit and people who have to be begged to contribute have no business offering any kind of comments about the way things are being done. I'm going to raise the issue of your treatment at our Tuesday meeting and let people know that if they are not prepared be supportive then we are not prepared to devote our time and energy to the committee. The purpose of a co-op is to be united not to tear each other down.
So. That's where it's at right now. I still have the two applications. I'm not going to do anything with them though. I'm just going to hold them until Tuesday and put them down at the meeting with a request that someone else step up and take over the final steps. It's something the chairperson and I decided in our conference earlier today.
